Sometimes, you can actually have a GREAT relationship with your mother/mother-in-law and still be surprised by their reactions to TTC/pregnancy. Jen and I have been trying to get pregnant for over two years and were just recently successful (13 wks now).

My mother was ecstatic (but she’s a nut, lol). Jen’s mom however, was a different story. And, it was totally unexpected because she and Jen are extremely close and she and I have a great relationship. Her reaction was one of almost not acknowledging it at all.

Even though we’ve been together for a while, it was the first time that I found out that Jen’s mom has always been worried about what she would tell people if we did get pregnant. And, that she’s always had a guilt issue with Jen being a lesbian. As in ‘what did she do to cause it?’.

It’s been an eye opening experience, and we’re working through it. We genuinely feel that once the grand baby is here, she’ll be happy, but it’s still been a true shock and difficult. So, hang in there. There is hope. I think my point is that sometimes, even when you think you have a great nurturing relationship, you can be caught off guard.

We both wish you the best of luck in both TTC and with the relationships with your mothers. Just remember to turn to each other and not on each other Good energy coming your way……