A little bit of infertility
Things are not going quite to plan this cycle. According to nurse #3 at the clinic, I have “a little bit of infertility.” “We have only tried once!” I cried. “I have a 32 day cycle!” I said in defence of the fact I had not yet ovulated at CD15. “Spotting can be a perfectly normal experience!” I am becoming the uber-assertive-Stephanie-Brill-says-there’s-nothing-wrong-with-me client ( I refuse to use the word patient).
It’s now CD17 and there are no fertile signs as yet. We’ve had a slight change of direction. Following the call from the clinic’s regional manager, we’re now able to inseminate twice at a reasonable price and with DDX’s good-quality second-batch sperm. While I still really like the idea of an at-home insemination (and said-artichoke jar has been purchased) I suddenly started to freak out about not knowing who the bio-dad was. I’d got so used to this monthly alternation model between our two donors. I never imagined myself to be a girl who did not know who had gotten her pregnant. It’s different to having an anon donor as we’d still have some conceptialisation of the sperm-donater. I just didn’t like the idea of having to examine the features of the baby to work out paternity. And not having a choice about whether we divulged this information or not because we didn’t know. And we felt like we wanted to try with DDX having tried with DDY last month and that that was part of the agreement we had with them both. So, now that we’re back with our clinic plan, we’re going to do the clinic insems with DDX this month and then do at-home insems with DDY next month (possibly supplemented with an IUI with DDY). We realised that we should probably just choose one approach and stick with it, but intuition is important. And we’re in control of this process and want to keep refining it. And thankfully our donors are so great.
So, it’s a stressful week. I have another blood test and ultrasound tomorrow. As much as this is at the centre of our life, Lo and I are trying to work out where we’re going to fit the insems into our hectic schedule. It’s difficult finding the flexibility to be as absent from work as much as this process demands. I also don’t want to give it too much space, given how much I freaked out last time. My approach this time is to go to the clinic, go to acupuncture, and go back to the office. Although my wonderful acupuncturist is a hard man to catch. With our two inseminations, Dr Y&F wants to do two IUIs. I had asked for an ICI and IUI. But it will be my concession to her to go with two IUIs. Probably better chances, but I kinda liked the idea of the vaginally inserted sperm swimming their way up in a leisurely fashion. With the stress, the spotting, and the dramas I am feeling like September isn’t really our month. In October we’ll be on leave all month (a staycation! there was no way we were booking a holiday as we wanted the flexibility to be around for this whole process), we’ll be doing the KD DIY thang, and will be a lot less wound-up. So, in true ttc trooper style, my mind is already on next month.
